The title is a line from the song أغار من قلبي for محمد عبد الوهاب
The way we look at Love is shaped through generations of conditioning of how a relationship is supposed to be. We watch TV, cartoons, sci-fi… We read magazines and see picture, We read books and watch commercials… all revolving around the idea of the two being in a state of ecstasy and drunk on love! And that’s how we have come to believe that that image is Love. We over romanticize these practices. No one teaches us that marriage is based on paying the bills, getting groceries, doing the laundry and fighting over who cooks and who does the dishes! No song is ever sung praising how romantic fighting over who pays the internet bill this month?!!! Or who’s turn to stay home this weekend with the kids! No movie is ever made romanticizing how frustrated a husband or a wife is! All we know about love and what we expect in a marriage are those long talks on the phone, or that long discussion about a world-issue!
But … what most of us fail to understand, and they’re not to be blamed, is the fact that married people spend %90 of their time planning their chores. And these daily routines and bills are signs of a successful love relationship and not the end of it. These chores and compromises are a huge part of the “settling down” we do when we say I do!