The title is a quote by the Sufi Mansour Alhallaj

My true friend, is not the who does not judge me. They are not the one who don’t care what I am, or what I think or I believe. They’re not the ones who encourage me no matter what I choose to do, regardless of right and wrong. No! My true friends are those who judge me. They are the ones that know I judge them in return. Both they and I know there’s no truth or affection behind the “no judgement” bullshit. They and I will create the safe place for us while judging. We are harmonious and in peace with the fact that we judge. Because only then our true caring for one another shows.